Cheating Girlfriends

Find a good marriage counselor and try to make it work. It’s worth the effort. If you end up separated in the end, at least you will know that you did all you could.

dump his butt and be a single mom to this baby. this baby needs you most of all, not a little bit of you, but all of you.

drop him like a sack of potatoes theres no point to stop your life or force feelings!

that is sad and im sorry but dont threaten the abrtion .tell him that you are leaving with the kids and will divorce him unless he agrees to see someone with you and never speak to that woman again

It is cheating! Not physically, yet, but emotionally. Counseling would be good for you two if he is willing. If he is resentful of it, it will not work. Same for you. Give it a shot if you both really want it to work, if not, get a really good divorce lawyer.

You should have learned the first time it’s not the baby’s fault it’s dad is a dumbas*

So sorry.. You have a hard choice to make.. Start by not making an more empty threats. Tell him the truth ” I am hurt very bad by what you did, and don’t know if I want to continue this relationship.”

First – you need to realize that saying things just to hurt him isn’t going to make things better.

Secondly – is he just talking to these girls or flirting because maybe the point is that you know you can trust him but do these girls know his actual intent? Is he cruelly giving them hope of something he’s not going to carry through on?

Thirdly – How did his family find out? Bringing them in doesn’t help either. Either he realizes this is hurting you or he doesn’t. Bottom line – now you have to decide if you can live with it.

I know what you are feeling…a mix of hurt, anger and betrayal? i have been there…and it was very soon after I found out i was pregnant, and it wasnt the first time. I think you should do what feels right to you. Let them stand up for him, but at the end of the day, there is just NO justifying his inability to be a GOOD man and step up when his wife needs him. Tell him straight up what his options are, and remind him that HE sets the bar for how much trust you have for him, and he should think about that when he does the things he does. I think you have every right to handle it in whatever way you feel is right. He needs to know that he is dead wrong, and thinking, saying it, or planning, is just as bad as the dead. its just as much a betrayal. I am so sorry for where you are. It just never feels the same after things like this, does it?

what??? I live in texas and have never heard of that???
well, I would suggest marriage counseling, there is a problem and needs to be fixed, or at least try and attept to fix it.
Good Luck

Well, first off, have yourself tested for any STD’s if you have not done so already. Your child’s safety is at risk if your spouse is or has had relations with another person. Second off, I would make an attempt to get him into marriage counseling with you to find out the source of his feelings and why he is acting out like this. Third off, if there is any abuse already in the relationship, you need to leave because domestic violence not only harms you, it harms your children and unborn baby. If you are having feelings about going through with an abortion just to spite your husband, I suggest you talk to a counselor yourself to deal with these feelings even though you say you couldn’t go through with it, you need to address the feelings that made you say that. Remember that you and your children are precious, work on the marriage, but do not be a doormat and do not take what his family has to say to heart. You are in charge of your opinions and you do not need them to defend him to you.

Hi Megan –

I’m sorry you’re going through this. I’m curious, though, how did you come to find these e-mails? Were you already suspicious and so looked there? Did he leave it open and maybe *want* to be caught? In either case, it doesn’t sound like he’s the best husband and father, flirting with other women while his wife is pregnant.

As for advice, I’m not sure what to suggest but maybe that might help you find a jumping-off point for figuring out the state of your relationship. Most of all, though, take care of yourself and your baby.

Too bad Texas doesn’t have laws against husbands cheating on their wives (especially pregnant ones!) Some heavy fines or imprisonment will do those cheaters nicely. Come to New York where any woman can give the boot to a no-good husband who dunks his doughnut with some frankenfish. Yes, you could choose an abortion, and I believe it’s your body and you should decide what’s best for YOU now.
I disagree with staying in a relationship just for the kids. MY parents tried staying together for us, but all they did was argue and it was just miserable at home. Don’t put a child through an unhappy home – that is often the worst. I would have understood if my mother had wanted to abort me because she’s gotta do what’s best for her even if it means an abortion. Nobody has a right to judge you.

Megan, I don’t see why your baby has to suffer the consequences, Why have an abortion? I say you should have the baby… You gave another chance to this man.. you did everything you could and now you know it won’t work with this guy. If I was you, i would have my baby, get divorced and fight in court as much as i can to be freed from that cheating husband.. Just my opinion… Best of luck!

God gave you that baby for a reason. Unfortunately there are a lot of women out there that are raising children without their fathers or the fathers are in their lives a little bit. Every woman is strong and if you feel that your relationship cannot get through this then it’s time to get out there on your own. If his family is defending him, who is on your side? Is your family helping you? You’ll need someone to confide in and help you through this. It wont be easy but if he is cheating OR planning on cheating you deserve better than that. Remember, that baby is a blessing.

Insist on some marriage counseling…NOW, before it gets worse. If he won’t go, go by yourself. Sorry you’re going through this. Love your children, born and unborn, it’s not their fault.

I’d be so angry!! What’s wrong with him? He hasn’t cheated, but who can guarantee he won’t? i think it’s just a matter of time until he does.. i mean, what is his excuse? what’s with those emails? What did he have to say for himself?

Value this things & make a decision, only you can do it. i would tell you not to get an abortion but you already said you are uncapable of this. Take Good care of you & have respect for yourself, Don’t stay with a man who dis-respected you & your family (because that’s what cheating is)whatever you do DON’T just stay together for the kids… trust me, your children will suffer more if you stay together only for them.

God Bless

Dont give empty threats..he’ll see right through them. You need to sit down and talk to him without yelling, threatening and see what really is going on and what you both might want to do for the kids sake. If he hasnt cheated you will drive him to it, believe me I’ve seen it happen. You also need to stop bringing his family into it they are always going to choose him, he’s blood not you.

For the kids sake dont make it a war make it a peace talk. I hate parents that fight in front of their kids, its ok to argue in front but not a full on war.

I would try and work on it with your husband. Maybe there are some things the both of you can work on to fix the marriage.