What you have to do is talk to your husband and be certain that he is willing to rededicate himself to your marriage and do the hard work that it takes to rebuild the trust between you. If he is sincerely contrite you two have a fighting chance.

The first step is to find a marriage counselor. When looking for a good marriage counselor you might want to find a practice where there are a number of therapists. The intake person at a good practice will discuss with you yout communication styles and pick the right person for you. Most counseling places will also have some sort of program where they will work with you on a sliding scale basis for payments.

Let’s say he isn’t sincere or interested in working things out–say he wants to leave…you can’t very well keep him around against his will but you can let him know that he can leave and if he wants to come back and be serious you are always open to reconcile somewhere down the line….if you are still available.

In the end it’s probably not a good idea to stay together just for the kids. It ends up putting a tremendous amount of pressure on the children to make you two happy. As Dr. Phil says, kids have a remarkable way of blaming themselves for their parents problems. Imagine if the two of you stuck it out and weren’t happy and it really was just becuse of them that you two tortured yourselves….

You have to make your own decision as to what will work for you but the first thing is really first…you should get counseling before you make any decisions…if he will do that then you are on your way to repair your marriage.

Best Wishes!

There really isn’t much you can do with a cheating spouse. That is a decision that you have to make. You have 2 roads, either stay or leave. Whichever one you do, you have to stick to your guns and not move. This is a very critical phase in your relationship. If you don’t act now, it sets the precedent for every other “mishap” in the future. If you stay, let him know you’re in it for the long haul with him and that you will love him until the day he dies. Don’t treat him any different, you’ve accepted the mistake he made, now move on. Don’t stay and treat him badly because you want to get him back. It becomes this back and forth, waste of time an energy event. Move on and see and experience life with him. If you decide to leave then you must just go. Not divorce, separate. Give him, and you, some time to think about and reevaluate your relationship. If he cheated, and you can’t accept it, then go away, hurt and and get over it until you can muster up energy to deal with it. At this point, talking probably really wouldn’t do any good. Take the kids with you and schedule ample time with you and him to be with the kids. You never want to have their relationship broken with him.

Point is, you have to show him your strong. You are the type of person that gives and deserves respect. Either go forward into a new life with him, or take time to clear your head until you can or maybe never.

I really hope this works out for you.

Good luck!

In that case, you have also to agree to fix whatever problems you have, or at least work it out with him. If you are the reason for cheating, you have the power to fix it.

Now, if you have no reasons to think you are responsible, and after talking to him he can not give you an explanation besides “the other girl has a better body” or “she does it better in bed than you”, then is up to you to give him a second chance. Is very nice of you to think of your kids and to be willing to sacrifice your life and happiness for them, but everything has a limit, and you must consider if is worth it or not.

Unless you are convinced he will change and will never cheat again as he is really going to try to be a better husband, to give a second chance to him just to end up cheating again is not worth it as you will end up separating him sooner or later.

Good luck.